Amy
When you can't do what you "know" you should

Not that easy, right? Time and again, clients tell me "I should just..." and then everything would be fine.
While "fake it 'till you make it" is good advice sometimes, it certainly is not at others. Like when I'm here for an experience, not for a performance.
Sex is an experience, not a performance.
Here's a great talk from sex educator Al Vernacchio to help you think more about it:
https://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one?language=en