Comfortable or Safe?
My heart rate is up, I feel edgy and tense, that fight-flight-freeze thing is going on. "Uh, oh," says the mind's narrative. Not good. What do I do?
Here's the tricky part-- discernment. These physiopsychological reactions will show up if I hear a stranger pick up speed behind me in a dark alley. They also show up if I'm pushing myself to speak to a big audience or ask them on a date or ask for a raise.
It's up to me to determine if I'm unsafe or if I'm uncomfortable. And the difference is a decision since my body gives me the same information about both conditions. Safety is always important; comfort is oftentimes a nuisance and distracts me from growing.