What is selfcare? Other than a bit buzzy? :) First off, get to know the Eight Dimensions of Wellness https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5508938/ and assess how you're doing in each according to the following inquiries:
1) What is *good* for me? How often do I choose that option?
2) In what ways do I feel depleted? How do I rest those parts of myself and use other, more resourced parts to restore myself.
3) Am I connected? To people, places or things; deities, dogs or daemons. Human beings are built for connection and we all run out of what we need if we are left to fuel ourselves alone.
May your insights bring you a supportive course of action.